This is not a story of a weeping and wailing tragedy for a perfect mother who has been transformed into mad Mrs Rochester by dementia. This is how things really are when you don't get along with your mother, she gets dementia and you are all she's got.
I'm pretty sure my mother’s dementia started after her double hip replacement. This sounds arbitrary but getting a firm diagnosis is. Her normal behaviour, which was to say the least always challenging, became increasingly worse when she came out of hospital. Traits, habits, routines now became obsessions; She'd phone me at work throughout the day asking me when I was coming home; no matter where she was she had to be back home at 4 o'clock; visitors were told to go home if they stayed beyond that witching hour so inevitably they stopped coming round and her world grew smaller.
"This is how things really are when you don't get along with your mother,
The majority of people taking care of a loved one with dementia in the United States are not professional caregivers, and never planned to become a primary caregiver to an aging relative. As a result, stress and anxiety are very common and nothing to be ashamed of. You are NOT alone! Let’s look at some ways to relieve stress when caring for loved one with dementia.